Been learning things along the way these past several weeks.
I made a commitment to God and I broke it.
I felt separated from Him.
I disappointed myself. I got discouraged.
Then I got mad and stubborn...like a stiff-necked Israelite.
I am strong.
I am determined.
I am a survivor.
I am an overcomer.
Being strong and overcoming obstacles means that you don't give up. You don't run away. You live through the struggle and continue to be the best you can be despite the odds.
However, the best I can be on my own is never enough.
I can't do it alone.
I can't do it in my own power.
I need my Lord and Savior.
I need His guidance and His hope.
That's one of the lessons I have been re-learning.
Another lesson is that no matter how many times we fail God, He remains faithful. He remains steady. And. I need Him.
Saturday, April 11, 2015
Friday, March 27, 2015
I wonder how many of us would be different people if we took a moment to appreciate, to do a small kind, unexpected gesture to say "Hey, I am thinking about you and I care"?
When it happens, it is like a bright and shining star lighting up the day...even if only for a moment. I look back at my day and it might all have been full of challenge and struggle, but that one moment, all the struggles can't overshadow that shining star. At least someone cared, someone made the effort, even if just for a moment.
When it happens, it is like a bright and shining star lighting up the day...even if only for a moment. I look back at my day and it might all have been full of challenge and struggle, but that one moment, all the struggles can't overshadow that shining star. At least someone cared, someone made the effort, even if just for a moment.
Thursday, March 12, 2015
How do you choose who to help?
Someone asked me today how people choose who to help -as in giving of yourself to benefit others (money, time, talents, etc.).
Great question.
I thought about it and we talked it through. Most often, we give to those we have a passion for. Most people's charities are for a cause supporting something they or someone close to them has gone through. For me personally, I have a passion to directly impact lives. I could donate money to organizations, but my heart is to help those not involved in large organizations. To help those around me. Sometimes that I feel an inner urge or pressure to help someone else, like the homeless person on the corner, even though my gift could be wasted by that person, it is never wasted in God's eyes. That pressure is more than conscience, and something more than just caring. It's the Holy Spirit leading.
One day, I decided to make eye contact with strangers and smile. The second person I smiled at happened to be a homeless person. He asked for money. I rarely carry cash and told him I didn't have any to give, but since I was right outside a shopping center, I could buy him something from the store. We ended up walking to a Subway and he profusely thanked me over and over, saying he and his friend hadn't eaten in 3 days. I believed him to be sincere. I bought him three foot long sandwiches. He asked the sandwich maker to wrap them in 6-inch sections to make them last as long as possible. After we parted ways, I saw him give a sandwich to two other homeless people and they immediately started eating as if they were starving. It felt good to be bold and brave enough to have made the difference in that moment. I only wished I had mentioned Christ to them too.
Other times, I help because I can. Or because I want to. God enables me to see a need and I know He has blessed me to be able to give, and I want to make a difference. It's one way I worship God. Deciding who to help, isn't something I think about. I spend more time thinking about the right way to help rather than who.
For example, I know two women who are both in very poor living situations and poor financial circumstances. One breaks rules and begs others to provide for her needs with constant excuses for her situation. The struggles of life are present everyday in her appearance, slumped walk, and constant excuses and empty apologies. She has a good heart and I pray that she will someday escape the abuse she lives in. I fear that she will never climb out of her struggles until she learns that she is the one who must create the change to impact change on her circumstances.
The other, if she hadn't shared glimpses of her struggles, I would have never even thought she lived in the terrible circumstances that she does. She was eating only one meal a day, of a bowl of cereal. Imagine that. No one knew for three days until someone offered her an extra snack as a friendly gesture and she made a comment about how excited she was to have something other to eat than cereal...later admitting she was living off of one meal per day (a bowl of cereal). Another time, when her paycheck wasn't quite enough for a bill she had, she quietly and respectfully asked for a loan -just enough to cover the bill. She didn't ask for more and wouldn't accept more without determining to pay it back in full. I knew she had more needs than just what she was asking for...but she didn't want more.
Who do I help? Well, I help both actually. Because the tender heart God has blessed me with tells me that perhaps the first woman has been beaten down so efficiently that she sees no hope and has compromised her integrity to make ends meet. When I help her, I try hard to be supportive without enabling and without rescuing. I cannot solve her problems, I can only lovingly try to support her.
The second woman, I give to carefully, but my heart wants to shower her with help. But I must hold back because my intentions are to give in a way that allows her to maintain her dignity and does not cause her to stumble. She is making choices in her life to better herself and better her child's life, and I have a high respect for her. I know her life is very hard. I am proud of her determination.
It is a blessing to be able to give, and a responsibility to take seriously.
How do you decide who to help or how to help others?
Great question.
I thought about it and we talked it through. Most often, we give to those we have a passion for. Most people's charities are for a cause supporting something they or someone close to them has gone through. For me personally, I have a passion to directly impact lives. I could donate money to organizations, but my heart is to help those not involved in large organizations. To help those around me. Sometimes that I feel an inner urge or pressure to help someone else, like the homeless person on the corner, even though my gift could be wasted by that person, it is never wasted in God's eyes. That pressure is more than conscience, and something more than just caring. It's the Holy Spirit leading.
One day, I decided to make eye contact with strangers and smile. The second person I smiled at happened to be a homeless person. He asked for money. I rarely carry cash and told him I didn't have any to give, but since I was right outside a shopping center, I could buy him something from the store. We ended up walking to a Subway and he profusely thanked me over and over, saying he and his friend hadn't eaten in 3 days. I believed him to be sincere. I bought him three foot long sandwiches. He asked the sandwich maker to wrap them in 6-inch sections to make them last as long as possible. After we parted ways, I saw him give a sandwich to two other homeless people and they immediately started eating as if they were starving. It felt good to be bold and brave enough to have made the difference in that moment. I only wished I had mentioned Christ to them too.
Other times, I help because I can. Or because I want to. God enables me to see a need and I know He has blessed me to be able to give, and I want to make a difference. It's one way I worship God. Deciding who to help, isn't something I think about. I spend more time thinking about the right way to help rather than who.
For example, I know two women who are both in very poor living situations and poor financial circumstances. One breaks rules and begs others to provide for her needs with constant excuses for her situation. The struggles of life are present everyday in her appearance, slumped walk, and constant excuses and empty apologies. She has a good heart and I pray that she will someday escape the abuse she lives in. I fear that she will never climb out of her struggles until she learns that she is the one who must create the change to impact change on her circumstances.
The other, if she hadn't shared glimpses of her struggles, I would have never even thought she lived in the terrible circumstances that she does. She was eating only one meal a day, of a bowl of cereal. Imagine that. No one knew for three days until someone offered her an extra snack as a friendly gesture and she made a comment about how excited she was to have something other to eat than cereal...later admitting she was living off of one meal per day (a bowl of cereal). Another time, when her paycheck wasn't quite enough for a bill she had, she quietly and respectfully asked for a loan -just enough to cover the bill. She didn't ask for more and wouldn't accept more without determining to pay it back in full. I knew she had more needs than just what she was asking for...but she didn't want more.
Who do I help? Well, I help both actually. Because the tender heart God has blessed me with tells me that perhaps the first woman has been beaten down so efficiently that she sees no hope and has compromised her integrity to make ends meet. When I help her, I try hard to be supportive without enabling and without rescuing. I cannot solve her problems, I can only lovingly try to support her.
The second woman, I give to carefully, but my heart wants to shower her with help. But I must hold back because my intentions are to give in a way that allows her to maintain her dignity and does not cause her to stumble. She is making choices in her life to better herself and better her child's life, and I have a high respect for her. I know her life is very hard. I am proud of her determination.
It is a blessing to be able to give, and a responsibility to take seriously.
How do you decide who to help or how to help others?
Monday, March 2, 2015
Leadership.
Leadership.
Set apart by role.
Set apart by responsibility.
Set apart by power.
Set apart by assumption.
Set apart by fear.
Set apart by ignorance.
Set apart by character.
Lonely at the top.
Prioritize towards the bigger picture.
Constant decision making.
Answers to everyone.
Impossible to please all, fortunate to please any.
Hours are long.
Breaks are rare.
Salaries are higher as is stress.
Rewards are not monetary.
Fulfillment is directly impacting the world.
Relationships are key.
Boundaries must be upheld.
Flexibility for the inevitable exception to the rule.
Judgment pours down from all sides.
Assumption truly does what it says it will.
Attacks from those who do not receive their desired outcome in situations.
Careful balance of all third party pressures.
Constant weighing of cost vs. benefit.
Constant reinforcing of boundaries.
Constant teaching of purpose.
Constant teaching to uplift and encourage.
Constant balance between challenging a subordinate and rewarding.
Five to Ten year plan.
Goals are big.
Broken down into bite size pieces.
Constant unknown.
Constant inward battle.
Intellectual.
Compassion.
Personal feelings hidden by maturity.
Hidden by authority.
Hidden by responsibility.
Feelings are understood within and cherished privately.
Vulnerability cautiously and carefully shared.
Vulnerability can cause fear for those who rely on a Leader to be strong.
Vulnerability can connect.
Awareness that others are ultimately not concerned with you.
Only what you can do for them.
Selflessness required.
Self-sacrifice is natural.
Humility.
Honesty.
Integrity.
Willingness to be hated and still uphold the boundaries with the utmost integrity.
Ability to let go and watch, wait, and roll with the punches...you can count on them.
Set apart by role.
Set apart by responsibility.
Set apart by power.
Set apart by assumption.
Set apart by fear.
Set apart by ignorance.
Set apart by character.
Lonely at the top.
Prioritize towards the bigger picture.
Constant decision making.
Answers to everyone.
Impossible to please all, fortunate to please any.
Hours are long.
Breaks are rare.
Salaries are higher as is stress.
Rewards are not monetary.
Fulfillment is directly impacting the world.
Relationships are key.
Boundaries must be upheld.
Flexibility for the inevitable exception to the rule.
Judgment pours down from all sides.
Assumption truly does what it says it will.
Attacks from those who do not receive their desired outcome in situations.
Careful balance of all third party pressures.
Constant weighing of cost vs. benefit.
Constant reinforcing of boundaries.
Constant teaching of purpose.
Constant teaching to uplift and encourage.
Constant balance between challenging a subordinate and rewarding.
Five to Ten year plan.
Goals are big.
Broken down into bite size pieces.
Constant unknown.
Constant inward battle.
Intellectual.
Compassion.
Personal feelings hidden by maturity.
Hidden by authority.
Hidden by responsibility.
Feelings are understood within and cherished privately.
Vulnerability cautiously and carefully shared.
Vulnerability can cause fear for those who rely on a Leader to be strong.
Vulnerability can connect.
Awareness that others are ultimately not concerned with you.
Only what you can do for them.
Selflessness required.
Self-sacrifice is natural.
Humility.
Honesty.
Integrity.
Willingness to be hated and still uphold the boundaries with the utmost integrity.
Ability to let go and watch, wait, and roll with the punches...you can count on them.
Sunday, February 8, 2015
INFJ
Portrait of an INFJ - Introverted iNtuitive Feeling Judging
(Introverted Intuition with Extraverted Feeling)
The Protector
As an INFJ, your primary mode of living is focused internally, where you take things in primarily via intuition. Your secondary mode is external, where you deal with things according to how you feel about them, or how they fit with your personal value system. INFJs are gentle, caring, complex and highly intuitive individuals. Artistic and creative, they live in a world of hidden meanings and possibilities. Only one percent of the population has an INFJ Personality Type, making it the most rare of all the types. INFJs place great importance on havings things orderly and systematic in their outer world. They put a lot of energy into identifying the best system for getting things done, and constantly define and re-define the priorities in their lives. On the other hand, INFJs operate within themselves on an intuitive basis which is entirely spontaneous. They know things intuitively, without being able to pinpoint why, and without detailed knowledge of the subject at hand. They are usually right, and they usually know it. Consequently, INFJs put a tremendous amount of faith into their instincts and intuitions. This is something of a conflict between the inner and outer worlds, and may result in the INFJ not being as organized as other Judging types tend to be. Or we may see some signs of disarray in an otherwise orderly tendency, such as a consistently messy desk. INFJs have uncanny insight into people and situations. They get "feelings" about things and intuitively understand them. As an extreme example, some INFJs report experiences of a psychic nature, such as getting strong feelings about there being a problem with a loved one, and discovering later that they were in a car accident. This is the sort of thing that other types may scorn and scoff at, and the INFJ themself does not really understand their intuition at a level which can be verbalized. Consequently, most INFJs are protective of their inner selves, sharing only what they choose to share when they choose to share it. They are deep, complex individuals, who are quite private and typically difficult to understand. INFJs hold back part of themselves, and can be secretive. But the INFJ is as genuinely warm as they are complex. INFJs hold a special place in the heart of people who they are close to, who are able to see their special gifts and depth of caring. INFJs are concerned for people's feelings, and try to be gentle to avoid hurting anyone. They are very sensitive to conflict, and cannot tolerate it very well. Situations which are charged with conflict may drive the normally peaceful INFJ into a state of agitation or charged anger. They may tend to internalize conflict into their bodies, and experience health problems when under a lot of stress. Because the INFJ has such strong intuitive capabilities, they trust their own instincts above all else. This may result in an INFJ stubborness and tendency to ignore other people's opinions. They believe that they're right. On the other hand, INFJ is a perfectionist who doubts that they are living up to their full potential. INFJs are rarely at complete peace with themselves - there's always something else they should be doing to improve themselves and the world around them. They believe in constant growth, and don't often take time to revel in their accomplishments. They have strong value systems, and need to live their lives in accordance with what they feel is right. In deference to the Feeling aspect of their personalities, INFJs are in some ways gentle and easy going. Conversely, they have very high expectations of themselves, and frequently of their families. They don't believe in compromising their ideals. INFJ is a natural nurturer; patient, devoted and protective. They make loving parents and usually have strong bonds with their offspring. They have high expectations of their children, and push them to be the best that they can be. This can sometimes manifest itself in the INFJ being hard-nosed and stubborn. But generally, children of an INFJ get devoted and sincere parental guidance, combined with deep caring. In the workplace, the INFJ usually shows up in areas where they can be creative and somewhat independent. They have a natural affinity for art, and many excel in the sciences, where they make use of their intuition. INFJs can also be found in service-oriented professions. They are not good at dealing with minutia or very detailed tasks. The INFJ will either avoid such things, or else go to the other extreme and become enveloped in the details to the extent that they can no longer see the big picture. An INFJ who has gone the route of becoming meticulous about details may be highly critical of other individuals who are not. The INFJ individual is gifted in ways that other types are not. Life is not necessarily easy for the INFJ, but they are capable of great depth of feeling and personal achievement.| Jungian functional preference ordering: |
| Dominant: Introverted Intuition |
| Auxiliary: Extraverted Feeling |
| Tertiary: Introverted Thinking |
| Inferior: Extraverted Sensing *Copied and pasted directly from: http://www.personalitypage.com/INFJ.html |
Thursday, November 20, 2014
Today I'm praying for many things. What are some things you are praying for?
I'm praying that my decisions will align with God's will.
I'm praying that my words and actions will not stem from a negative attitude, but a honest and humble heart.
I'm praying that I will do better in putting God first.
I'm praying for God's direction in my life.
I'm praying for balance and peace.
I'm praying for God to do His work in those around me as He works in me.
Maybe some of your heart's cries are similar to mine.
Father God,
I ask you today to surround your precious child with your love and peace. Humble our hearts and reveal yourself to us. I pray for protection as we face the trials of this world and battle our flesh. Forgive us of our failures, enable us to be one in you.
In Jesus Name, Amen
I'm praying that my decisions will align with God's will.
I'm praying that my words and actions will not stem from a negative attitude, but a honest and humble heart.
I'm praying that I will do better in putting God first.
I'm praying for God's direction in my life.
I'm praying for balance and peace.
I'm praying for God to do His work in those around me as He works in me.
Maybe some of your heart's cries are similar to mine.
Father God,
I ask you today to surround your precious child with your love and peace. Humble our hearts and reveal yourself to us. I pray for protection as we face the trials of this world and battle our flesh. Forgive us of our failures, enable us to be one in you.
In Jesus Name, Amen
Sunday, November 2, 2014
Finding Myself
Sometimes we get caught up in surviving life, that we forget to live it.
Recently I've been pulling back from life's obligations and the pressures of trying to do everything just right.
I reached a place where I couldn't do it anymore and I felt like I was failing. Overwhelmed with responsibility, in part due to life circumstances and also in large part to the internal obligations I put on myself trying to be the best mom, wife, homemaker, and employer I could be. I was burning out fast. I had to take a break. So this is what I did:
*Tried to maintain a balance, I didn't just fly off the deep end and withdraw from all my responsibilities, but I definitely scaled back big time.
*I pushed back the mental obligations and seek out God's direction.
1. I re-discovered myself by taking time for me. I sought out ways that helped me relax, and things that brought a sense of fulfillment. I bought myself a new book to read, I watched the television series that captivated my imagination and interests. I deleted a good majority of apps on my phone. I didn't spend near as much time wasted on Facebook.
2. I took time out to read my bible when it worked for me. I read a passage when I stopped to change out of my work clothes and into my comfy clothes. I would jot down a few thoughts or questions for God in my journal instead of filling time by playing a meaningless game on my phone or computer.
3. I considered which things were actually worth my time? Housework, of course, but I sought out a more effective time and way of doing it that fulfills me instead of draining me. I considered what level of "mess" I was willing to live in, and worked from there. I want a relationship with my children, that requires time and effort. I had to think about how I wanted to go about building that relationship.
4. I contemplated which parts of my life were most important to me? How did I want them to be, and what kind of time/effort would that require I put into it? Was I willing to make the effort? I was burned out being mom and homemaker, but that didn't mean that I didn't want to be mom and homemaker anymore. I needed to find what parts of those roles were important to me and what efforts I needed to change to meet my priorities. I'm also learning that I need to make changes in how I fulfill my job duties at work so I am not drained at home.
It's been very freeing and allowed me to discover a renewed sense of who I am and how I fit into the world I live in with the family God has given me.
My husband and I have had some great heart-to-heart discussions about our goals, our future, and what realistic limits and dreams we have. All of our dreams include the phrase, "let's work towards this, and see what doors God opens..."
Recently I've been pulling back from life's obligations and the pressures of trying to do everything just right.
I reached a place where I couldn't do it anymore and I felt like I was failing. Overwhelmed with responsibility, in part due to life circumstances and also in large part to the internal obligations I put on myself trying to be the best mom, wife, homemaker, and employer I could be. I was burning out fast. I had to take a break. So this is what I did:
*Tried to maintain a balance, I didn't just fly off the deep end and withdraw from all my responsibilities, but I definitely scaled back big time.
*I pushed back the mental obligations and seek out God's direction.
1. I re-discovered myself by taking time for me. I sought out ways that helped me relax, and things that brought a sense of fulfillment. I bought myself a new book to read, I watched the television series that captivated my imagination and interests. I deleted a good majority of apps on my phone. I didn't spend near as much time wasted on Facebook.
2. I took time out to read my bible when it worked for me. I read a passage when I stopped to change out of my work clothes and into my comfy clothes. I would jot down a few thoughts or questions for God in my journal instead of filling time by playing a meaningless game on my phone or computer.
3. I considered which things were actually worth my time? Housework, of course, but I sought out a more effective time and way of doing it that fulfills me instead of draining me. I considered what level of "mess" I was willing to live in, and worked from there. I want a relationship with my children, that requires time and effort. I had to think about how I wanted to go about building that relationship.
4. I contemplated which parts of my life were most important to me? How did I want them to be, and what kind of time/effort would that require I put into it? Was I willing to make the effort? I was burned out being mom and homemaker, but that didn't mean that I didn't want to be mom and homemaker anymore. I needed to find what parts of those roles were important to me and what efforts I needed to change to meet my priorities. I'm also learning that I need to make changes in how I fulfill my job duties at work so I am not drained at home.
It's been very freeing and allowed me to discover a renewed sense of who I am and how I fit into the world I live in with the family God has given me.
My husband and I have had some great heart-to-heart discussions about our goals, our future, and what realistic limits and dreams we have. All of our dreams include the phrase, "let's work towards this, and see what doors God opens..."
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