Sunday, February 8, 2015

INFJ

Portrait of an INFJ - Introverted iNtuitive Feeling Judging
(Introverted Intuition with Extraverted Feeling)

The Protector

As an INFJ, your primary mode of living is focused internally, where you take things in primarily via intuition. Your secondary mode is external, where you deal with things according to how you feel about them, or how they fit with your personal value system. INFJs are gentle, caring, complex and highly intuitive individuals. Artistic and creative, they live in a world of hidden meanings and possibilities. Only one percent of the population has an INFJ Personality Type, making it the most rare of all the types. INFJs place great importance on havings things orderly and systematic in their outer world. They put a lot of energy into identifying the best system for getting things done, and constantly define and re-define the priorities in their lives. On the other hand, INFJs operate within themselves on an intuitive basis which is entirely spontaneous. They know things intuitively, without being able to pinpoint why, and without detailed knowledge of the subject at hand. They are usually right, and they usually know it. Consequently, INFJs put a tremendous amount of faith into their instincts and intuitions. This is something of a conflict between the inner and outer worlds, and may result in the INFJ not being as organized as other Judging types tend to be. Or we may see some signs of disarray in an otherwise orderly tendency, such as a consistently messy desk. INFJs have uncanny insight into people and situations. They get "feelings" about things and intuitively understand them. As an extreme example, some INFJs report experiences of a psychic nature, such as getting strong feelings about there being a problem with a loved one, and discovering later that they were in a car accident. This is the sort of thing that other types may scorn and scoff at, and the INFJ themself does not really understand their intuition at a level which can be verbalized. Consequently, most INFJs are protective of their inner selves, sharing only what they choose to share when they choose to share it. They are deep, complex individuals, who are quite private and typically difficult to understand. INFJs hold back part of themselves, and can be secretive. But the INFJ is as genuinely warm as they are complex. INFJs hold a special place in the heart of people who they are close to, who are able to see their special gifts and depth of caring. INFJs are concerned for people's feelings, and try to be gentle to avoid hurting anyone. They are very sensitive to conflict, and cannot tolerate it very well. Situations which are charged with conflict may drive the normally peaceful INFJ into a state of agitation or charged anger. They may tend to internalize conflict into their bodies, and experience health problems when under a lot of stress. Because the INFJ has such strong intuitive capabilities, they trust their own instincts above all else. This may result in an INFJ stubborness and tendency to ignore other people's opinions. They believe that they're right. On the other hand, INFJ is a perfectionist who doubts that they are living up to their full potential. INFJs are rarely at complete peace with themselves - there's always something else they should be doing to improve themselves and the world around them. They believe in constant growth, and don't often take time to revel in their accomplishments. They have strong value systems, and need to live their lives in accordance with what they feel is right. In deference to the Feeling aspect of their personalities, INFJs are in some ways gentle and easy going. Conversely, they have very high expectations of themselves, and frequently of their families. They don't believe in compromising their ideals. INFJ is a natural nurturer; patient, devoted and protective. They make loving parents and usually have strong bonds with their offspring. They have high expectations of their children, and push them to be the best that they can be. This can sometimes manifest itself in the INFJ being hard-nosed and stubborn. But generally, children of an INFJ get devoted and sincere parental guidance, combined with deep caring. In the workplace, the INFJ usually shows up in areas where they can be creative and somewhat independent. They have a natural affinity for art, and many excel in the sciences, where they make use of their intuition. INFJs can also be found in service-oriented professions. They are not good at dealing with minutia or very detailed tasks. The INFJ will either avoid such things, or else go to the other extreme and become enveloped in the details to the extent that they can no longer see the big picture. An INFJ who has gone the route of becoming meticulous about details may be highly critical of other individuals who are not. The INFJ individual is gifted in ways that other types are not. Life is not necessarily easy for the INFJ, but they are capable of great depth of feeling and personal achievement.
Jungian functional preference ordering:
 
Dominant: Introverted Intuition
Auxiliary: Extraverted Feeling
Tertiary: Introverted Thinking
Inferior: Extraverted Sensing

*Copied and pasted directly from: http://www.personalitypage.com/INFJ.html



 

Thursday, November 20, 2014

Today I'm praying for many things.  What are some things you are praying for?

I'm praying that my decisions will align with God's will.
I'm praying that my words and actions will not stem from a negative attitude, but a honest and humble heart.
I'm praying that I will do better in putting God first.
I'm praying for God's direction in my life.
I'm praying for balance and peace.
I'm praying for God to do His work in those around me as He works in me.

Maybe some of your heart's cries are similar to mine. 

Father God,

I ask you today to surround your precious child with your love and peace.  Humble our hearts and reveal yourself to us.  I pray for protection as we face the trials of this world and battle our flesh.  Forgive us of our failures, enable us to be one in you.

In Jesus Name,  Amen

Sunday, November 2, 2014

Finding Myself

Sometimes we get caught up in surviving life, that we forget to live it.

Recently I've been pulling back from life's obligations and the pressures of trying to do everything just right. 

I reached a place where I couldn't do it anymore and I felt like I was failing.  Overwhelmed with responsibility, in part due to life  circumstances and also in large part to the internal obligations I put on myself trying to be the best mom, wife, homemaker, and employer I could be.  I was burning out fast.  I had to take a break.  So this is what I did:

*Tried to maintain a balance, I didn't just fly off the deep end and withdraw from all my responsibilities, but I definitely scaled back big time.
*I pushed back the mental obligations and seek out God's direction.

1. I re-discovered myself by taking time for me.  I sought out ways that helped me relax, and things that brought a sense of fulfillment. I bought myself a new book to read, I watched the television series that captivated my imagination and interests.  I deleted a good majority of apps on my phone.  I didn't spend near as much time wasted on Facebook.

2. I took time out to read my bible when it worked for me.  I read a passage when I stopped to change out of my work clothes and into my comfy clothes.  I would jot down a few thoughts or questions for God in my journal instead of filling time by playing a meaningless game on my phone or computer.

3.  I considered which things were actually worth my time?  Housework, of course, but I sought out a more effective time and way of doing it that fulfills me instead of draining me.  I considered what level of "mess" I was willing to live in, and worked from there.  I want a relationship with my children, that requires time and effort.  I had to think about how I wanted to go about building that relationship.

4.  I contemplated which parts of my life were most important to me?  How did I want them to be, and what kind of time/effort would that require I put into it?  Was I willing to make the effort?  I was burned out being mom and homemaker, but that didn't mean that I didn't want to be mom and homemaker anymore.  I needed to find what parts of those roles were important to me and what efforts I needed to change to meet my priorities.  I'm also learning that I need to make changes in how I fulfill my job duties at work so I am not drained at home.

It's been very freeing and allowed me to discover a renewed sense of who I am and how I fit into the world I live in with the family God has given me.

My husband and I have had some great heart-to-heart discussions about our goals, our future, and what realistic limits and dreams we have.  All of our dreams include the phrase, "let's work towards this, and see what doors God opens..."

Friday, October 17, 2014

Taking a Step Back

Sometimes it is good to take a step back.  To let go and leave it be for a bit.

That's kind of where I am with this blog.  I'm tired of the psycho-analyzing and the mental games I put myself through.  This journey in my faith has many ups and downs.  Christianity is easy, but not simple.  I'm taking time to be me.  To find what I enjoy.  To try and get my priorities on track.

I don't know what that means for this blog.  It may mean I let it go for a while.  Maybe I'll go in a new direction.  I'm not sure.  I'm not interested in exploring what makes me operate, I am who I am, faults and all.  God seems to have me in a really special place where I am.  He's using me how I am.  I'm learning new things all the time and I am growing.  I'm content to just 'be' right now.

I started this blog to figure out how to live in faith during the biggest trial of my life.  I learned along the way, but I've also discovered that no matter how you tell someone a lesson you yourself have learned...they have to learn it themselves in their own way.  At least that's how it works for me.  I can follow advice, but until I learn it in my own experiences, it never hits home.

Tuesday, September 23, 2014

The Important Things

Discouragement is an effective tool.  At least against me anyway.
Losing hope is no fun.  Finding it again is better.

I had my priorities all mixed up.

My Life's Priorities:
God
Husband
Children
Me
Home
Church
...and then work, way down at the bottom!

 My job is simply a job.  The means to an end.  The means to enabling me to be home with my family more than any other job I might take on.   I spent a lot of time searching out options. Ultimately, I could get another job that would even pay similar wages without the responsibilities I bear now.  But the exchange would be less time at home with my family, something I'm not willing to give up.

Recognizing what my priorities are helped to change my perspective and while I'm still muddling through, I'm not as lost.

Saturday, September 6, 2014

Confusing

Self-discovery is the name of the game.  I'm not sure I still agree with my previous assessment of myself.  Hmmm...reading that sentence is ironic and makes me laugh.  Trying to analyze my life and my faith journey may not be the best thing to be doing -only God truly knows what is actually going on.

I'm ready for a change in my life.  I don't know what that change is, but I am ready to move forward and not be stuck in this endless roller coaster.  I am not a person who gets angry, but I did.  I'm not a person who speaks from emotion because I know my emotions can be deceptive.  Somehow I have gotten to this place where I don't even recognize myself in my own behavior.

The question remains -and only time will tell- what change is going to happen and when? 

Saturday, August 30, 2014

The HEART of the Matter

As I have repented and mulled over my outburst of anger I am learning about myself and discovering more of who I am versus who I portray myself as.  James chapter 3 speaks of controlling the tongue and the difference between worldly wisdom and godly wisdom.

My typical behavior often portrays godly wisdom traits.  Selfish ambition and bitter envy are not things I recognize in myself, but I think they are subtly in my personality in their own ways.  Often the person I portray myself to be has very selfish or bitter thoughts.  I just don't express them outwardly.  Realizing this means that yes, I can be passive-aggressive.  More than that, I'm understanding more of what it means when the bible says that God looks at the heart.  Even if I'm behaving in a godly manner, God knows my heart and my true attitude about a situation.  I want my heart attitude to match my behavior, and I don't want it to be in a selfish or bitter way!